One Way Love

A one way love can never thrive; 
It needs reciprocation. 
And so in order to survive 
My love needs affirmation. 
So throw your caution to the sky, 
And let your heart command. 
You'll find that it will not deny 
A love which must expand. 
Come now, to me, with open arms 
And sweep me off my feet; 
And then display for me your charms, 
To make my love complete. 
My one way love will terminate 
Without your inspiration. 
So, therefore, please reciprocate 
With no more hesitation.

Why Guys Like Girls.......

WELL here's a few reasons why guys like girls

1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. the ease in which they fit into our arms
5. the way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while
8. because they are always warm even when its minus 30 out side
9. the way they look good no matter what they wear
10. the way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this            earth
11. How cute they are when they argue
12. the way her hand always finds yours
13. the way they smile
14. the way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight
15. the way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....
16. the way they kiss when you do something nice for them
17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you'
18. actually... just the way they kiss you...
19. the way they fall into your arms when they cry
20. then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
22. then the way apologize when it does hurt ..(even though we don't admit it!)
23. the way they say "I miss you"
24. the way you miss them
25. the way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.....

Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.

Finding the One You Love.....

There are 4 important persons in your life. How many have you found?

1st - yourself,
2nd - one you love most,
3rd - one who love you most,
4th - one you spend the rest of your life with.

Firstly you'll meet the 1 you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you've experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you'll then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in real life, these 3 people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most doesn't love you. The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who love you most.
He/she is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

“It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel.”

The Generation Gap

We've all heard about it and many of us have experienced it first hand. It's probably been around for a while but earlier, the emphasis on filial devotion and the patriarchal structure tended to lessen its impact. Then too, age was respected for its wisdom. But today as the successful get younger and younger and the new makes the old obsolete in record time, the generation gap is much more evident and clearly here to stay.

The generation gap affects not just grandparents but increasingly parents as well. Rapid technological changes have made it almost impossible for any but the very young to adapt fast enough. With age, response time goes up as inertia of rest sets in and before you know it, technology has overtaken you and you're left floundering! Also changing social values and economic conditions have combined to produce what some call the superbrat. He's confident beyond his years, has more opportunities for making money, is in the prime of life and focused only on money, glamour and fame. So what if he's only a teenager? In today's world if you're over thirty you're probably over the hill. Unfortunately however, as far as legal and social definitions go, he's still a child and subject to your discipline. And so the stage is all set for conflict.

In the last few years dating, drugs and discos have come up in a big way. So has consumerism and materialism. Your teenager is no longer content with living life with a modest budget, he wants to enjoy life's luxuries to the hilt. On the positive side, he is willing to work hard to achieve his aims but on the negative side, the single-minded pursuit of success doesn't leave much time for family especially grandparents. Overall, the world is graying fast but the respect and dignity traditionally accorded old age is disappearing just as fast. And old age also means you - after all what can you possibly know about his brave new world?

The generation gap is of course not a given for all families. There are many households where it doesn't occur at all. There are fights and arguments and children defying their parents but these are occasional and minor. What then are these families doing right? Here are a few of their secrets: -

• Lots of communication and involvement - this one's obvious but not always easy to follow. It just means that if you're not talking to the children because you're too busy or too mad at them or because you disagree with whatever they say then you've cut off your channel of communication. So what you need to remember when dealing with teenagers is that they may be insufferable know alls a lot of the time but they'll learn that there are gray shades between the blacks and the whites soon enough. Also that intolerance or a judgemental attitude will hurt you more than your child.
  
• Lots of time spent together in play and fun- its harder to think you hate your mom or dad when you spend a large part of your week having fun with them. It's even harder when in many ways they are your best friends.
  
• Clear boundaries - thus far and no further or they will face clearly defined consequences. As long as children know this, you and they both can be much freer with each other without you worrying about being taken advantage of.
  
• Clear values - make it clear that everything has to be earned. If they want respect for their opinions they have to learn to respect the opinions of others. Similarly other values to stress are honesty, compassion and tolerance.
  
• Foster self-dependence - essentially this means teach them to know their own minds and make their own decisions. This will help them to keep their balance in the face of peer pressure. Self-dependence starts early - let your child have a say in family affairs as well as in matters personally affecting him from the time that he is a toddler. Let him help with family chores and earn a part of his own money. Make it clear that even when he makes mistakes, it's not the end of the world - it's an essential part of the learning process.
  
• Don't forbid anything in absolute terms because the forbidden is always very attractive!
  
  Lots has been written about the generation gap but each family has its own unique ways of expressing this gap. In joint families where there are grandparents, the conflict is often more apparent. Whatever the situation however, remember this story - Long ago there was a devastating war in a country. One of the defeated soldiers dragged himself off the battlefield to the sanctuary of a wise sage and asked him " Is there anything that will take away the sting of our defeat and the glory of the victors?" The sage smiled and said softly " This too shall pass!"

Happy Father's Day

A Dad is a person
who is loving and kind,
And often he knows
what you have on your mind.
He's someone who listens,
suggests, and defends.
A dad can be one
of your very best friends!
He's proud of your triumphs,
but when things go wrong,
A dad can be patient
and helpful and strong
In all that you do,
a dad's love plays a part.
There's always a place for him
deep in your heart.
And each year that passes,
you're even more glad,
More grateful and proud
just to call him your dad!
Thank you, Dad...
for listening and caring,
for giving and sharing,
but, especially, for just being you!
Happy Father's Day

Cyber conversation with God.

God: Hello. Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No, who is this?
God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now.
am in the midst of something.
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too ...
Me: Don't know. But I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.
It's rush hour all the time.
God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results.
Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way,
I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God: Well I wanted to resolve your fight for time,
by giving you some clarity. In this net era,
I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it
complicated.
Me: Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.
You are worrying because you are analyzing.
Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty.
God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction.
Gold cannot be purified without fire.
Good people go through trials, but don't suffer.
With that experience their life becomes better not bitter.
Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives
the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can’t
we be free from problems?
God : Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial
Lessons to Enhance Mental Strength.
Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance,
not when you are free from problems.
Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where
we are heading.
God: If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.
Look inside. Looking outside, you dream.
Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more
than moving in the right direction.
What should I do?
God: Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.
Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing
you rode ahead. You work with the compass.
Let others work with the clock.
Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how
far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they
prosper, they never ask "Why me".
Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want
to be on the side of the truth.
Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I can’t get the answer.
God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you
want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here.

Create it.
Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
Me: How can I get the best out of life?
God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present
with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not
answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers.

Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat.
I am so happy to start the day with a new sense of inspiration.
God: Well, Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your
doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve,
not a problem to resolve.Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Love Laid Bare

Love often comes uninvited, unexpected,

But slowly, She's infected, affected,

Overwhelmed not by looks, charm or words,

But by acts of trust , kindness and love,

She soon realizes his intentions are pure,

And she falls for him all the more,

Her plans excluded love completely,

But now, she tries determining the possibility,

He, in turn, exerts no pressure,

But waits patiently for her answer,

He knows he can't wait long,

Coz' he must trudge ahead, move along,

For many there are, fishes in the sea,

And maybe they are not meant to be,

Yet part of him still longs for her,

And wants her to close, to be dear,

How is it that she cannot see it there,

His affection, his love laid bare,

All he can do now is hope for the best,

And let God do the rest.

More Than A Mother

When God set the world in place,
when He hung the stars up in space,
when He made the land and the sea,
then He made you and me.
He sat back and saw all that was good,
He saw things to be as they should.
Just one more blessing He had in store;
He created a mother, but whatever for?
He knew a mother would have a special place
to shine His reflection on her child's face.
A mother will walk the extra mile
just to see her children smile.
She'll work her fingers to the bone
to make a house into a home.
A mother is there to teach and guide,
a mother will stay right by your side.
She'll be there through your pain and strife,
she'll stay constant in your life.
A mother will lend a helping hand
until you have the strength to stand.
She'll pick you up when you are down,
when you need a friend she'll stick around.
A mother is one who listens well,
will keep her word; will never tell.
A mother never pokes or pries
but stands quietly by your side,
giving you the strength you need,
encouraging you to succeed.
A mother is one who can be strong
when you need someone to lean on.
You're more than a mother to me;
a reflection of Him in your face I see,
a love that knows no boundaries.
I'm glad that you chose to be
all this and more to me.
You share a love that knows no end,
you're more than my mother,
you are my friend.

Friends.....

Friends come and go throughout our lifetime,

Some forget and leave us behind,

Some stay awhile, they stick around,

But true friends are seldom found,

The time spent with them, so memorable,

And the memories, so unforgettable,

All the jokes we cracked, the laughs we had,

The problems we shared, no matter how lame or sad,

The fights we had and the punches we threw,

Were just chapters to get to know me and you,

Someone to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear,

Someone you tell your secrets and your deepest fears,

Someone who cheers you up when you're feeling down,

Someone to help you cope when you start to drown,

A bond unbreakable by distance, time or space,

A unique presence that can never be replaced,

But somehow, when friendships fall apart,

Your friends still stay in your heart,

No matter how many days go by or how much time passes by,

A friend will remain brother, buddy, pal and ally.

Being Ignored

Its very irritating when a close friend of yours suddenly starts ignoring you for no good reason. I find it very childish. I'm a very straight forward and frank person, if you've got a problem, just say it to my face. Going on silent mode ain't gonna do anybody nor the friendship any good.

Grow up!!

Victory In Defeat

ALAM's Annual Inter-campus Games was held today at our campus in Batu Rakit, Terengganu. Even though ALAM Melaka were the overall champions this time round, I believe that we should still hold our heads high with pride. Coz we gave them a run for their money and although we felt some of the game officials were a little biased at times, we never complained. We just gave it our all. And altough we didnt get the trophy, we gained much more.

We showed our bond as comrades and batchmates, our competitive spirits, our sportsmanship and we championed our campus. Hopefully, next year we will get the trophy. Watch out ALAM Melaka!!

SOMEONE

Someone who is my heart's defender,

Someone whose touch is so tender,

Someone who is there on the darkest of nights,

Someone whose presence just feels so right,

Someone so beautiful, so fair,

Someone who rescues me from despair,

Someone who I sometimes took for granted,

Someone who always knew what I wanted,

Someone who believes I will never fail,

Someone whose anger makes me pale,

Someone to help me up when I'm down,

Someone who always seems to be around,

Someone to lean on when I can't take the heat,

Someone to help me get back on my own two feet,

Someone in the night to keep me warm,

Someone I will protect from all harm,

Someone who changes me for the better,

Someone I intend to treasure and keep forever,

Someone who I hope will be with me all my life,

Someone who someday I might call my wife.